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Embracing Contradictions: The Complex Desires of A Late 30-Something Woman

I frequently find myself grappling with opposing desires. At times, I wonder if this is a result of being a woman, being overly emotional, or perhaps just the nature of modern parenthood. I often yearn for things that are in direct conflict with each other.

For instance, I want another baby, maybe even two more. Yet, I dread the thought of being pregnant again and would love to skip past the first two years of sleepless nights and constant crying. The reality is, I desire the joy and fulfillment that another child could bring, but I am acutely aware of the financial cost and added stress it would entail.

Then there’s the idea of having backyard chickens. The thought of fresh eggs and a little slice of rural life in our backyard is appealing. However, I worry that our small yard wouldn’t accommodate them well, and the cost might outweigh the benefits. Plus, I dislike feeling tied down to our house, which is exactly what chickens would do.

While we’re on this topic, I also want a dog. The companionship and joy a dog could bring to our family is tempting, but I hesitate at the thought of added expenses, scratched floors, and rugs ruined by potty training accidents.

Some days, I dream of having all these things and embracing the extra responsibilities they bring. Other days, I crave a carefree lifestyle where I’m not tied down and can move about whenever and wherever I please. Yet, with two young kids and a husband who works in an office and rarely takes vacations, being tied down is my current reality.

So, why do I keep entertaining these ideas? Perhaps it’s because I recognize that while my life is already filled with responsibilities, adding something new could bring joy and fulfillment that outweigh the drawbacks. In a way, these conflicting desires highlight a deeper truth about parenting and life in general: it’s a constant balancing act between what we want and what we can realistically manage.

In conclusion, it’s okay to have opposing desires and to dream of a life that seems contradictory. Embracing these contradictions is part of the journey, and it’s through this process that we often find what truly matters to us. Whether or not I ever get the chickens, the dog, or another baby, I think it is probably just important to embrace where we are now in our lives and be open to opportunities as they may arise. I think I am done trying to have control all of time. I just want to be open to whatever presents itself in this beautiful crazy life.

Embracing Summer Break: Ideas for Staying Sane with Young Kids at Home

We’re three days into my boys’ summer break from preschool, and so far, it’s been delightful. Ask me again in 14 weeks, and I might be pulling my hair out, but for now, the slow mornings and long walks are a welcome change. Here are some strategies I’m using to help us maintain our sanity throughout the summer:

Maintaining Our Morning Routine
We follow the same morning routine as during the school year. I let the boys sleep in if they’re tired, and our bedtime has shifted slightly later. However, once they wake up, we go through the same motions at a more relaxed pace. They get up, get dressed, comb their hair, brush their teeth, and then we head downstairs for breakfast. Afterward, instead of rushing to school, they enjoy a little TV time while I tackle the most demanding part of my workday.

Extended Morning Walks
I usually take a 10-minute walk every morning before work, but with no need to spend 30 minutes in the car, we now extend our walk time. We head out after I complete some hard work tasks and it is a great change of pace. These walks are a great opportunity for us to chat and enjoy the morning sun together.

Daily Outings
Every day, we make sure to get out of the house, even if it’s just a quick trip to the store. It’s important for all of us to see different faces and get a change of scenery.

Scheduled Playdates
I’ve set up playdates with other kids from school. This not only helps the boys stay connected with their friends but also gives them a chance to burn off some energy.

Lots of Outside Time
Our backyard is fenced, so I’m comfortable letting my almost 3 and almost 5-year-old play outside on their own. This gives me a chance to do some light work in the afternoon while they enjoy the playset, sandbox, garden, and even the recent puddles from the rain. They often continue playing while I make dinner. I wonder if they’ll eventually tire of the backyard, but for now, they are content for long periods.

I cherish this time together and hope that we continue to enjoy the next 13.5 weeks as much as we’ve enjoyed the first three days. This summer, I’m embracing the slower pace and finding joy in the simple moments. Whether it’s sticking to our morning routine, extending our walks, or making sure we get out of the house, these small strategies are helping us make the most of our summer break.